1 - The Moralist
Quality Control Specialist, Reformer, Perfectionist, Judge, Administrator, Rule Keeper, Crusader
9 - The Peaceful Mediator
Mediator, Peacekeeper, Diplomat, Pleasant Person, Modest Person, Humble Person, Pacifist
Ones and Nines are both in the Gut Center and need autonomy and independence. Nines withdraw to find peace while Ones prove their self-worth through discipline and hard work. Ones are diligent, detail-oriented, and moral, while Nines are relaxed, accepting, and peaceful. In stress, Ones can become highly critical and sharp, while Nines can become stubborn and withdrawn.
Both Ones and Nines are idealistic, appreciate orderliness and steadiness, and are motivated by the desire to make the world a better place. They will have similar views on justice, consistency, and pragmatism. Both will avoid confrontation and tend never to rock the boat.
How You Complement Each Other
While both Ones and Nines are idealistic, Ones relate to their ideals more through abstract principles whereas Nines relate to their idealism through interpersonal relationships in the present moment. Both are hard-working, self-sacrificing, good at delaying immediate gratification for the payoff of long term goals, and willing to put the needs of others and projects before their own. Ones are clear, rational thinkers with strong articulation skills. Nines are gentle, accepting people that support others more unconditionally.
While Ones can also be supportive, it is usually with the ulterior motive that the person benefiting from their support make progress or improve to more closely meet their standards. Nines are undemanding, easy to get along with and emphasize creating an interpersonal connection. Ones focus on what is good, right, and true, sometimes at the cost of their relational closeness.
When this pairing comes together, they can bond over common ideals and goals. One typically serves to drive the ship, managing tasks, details, plans, strategies. While Nines tend to support by soothing the interpersonal connections, softening the One’s edginess, and offering a compassionate, multifaceted perspective. Nines appreciate the clarity, direction, and demand for excellence that Ones bring to their life.
Nines often struggle with generating the force needed to turn their passions and ideals into reality, and as such, Ones’ consistent structure and organization can help Nines to flourish. Ones will appreciate Nines' flexibility, patience, acceptance, steadiness, genuine care, and empathy.
If they can hear their Nine counterparts, Ones will also benefit from Nines ability to see the truth in multiple perspectives and give all viewpoints equal weight. On the whole, Nines can serve as a softening agent in One's reality, while Ones can add a much-needed layer of exactitude, sharpness, and clarity to Nines sometimes fuzzy, undifferentiated world.
How You Can Get Into Trouble
Ones and Nines get into trouble primarily due to their conflicting stress responses. Ones become overwhelmed when activities are significantly diverging from their preconceived ideals.
When Ones become stressed, they are often demonstrably frustrated, prickly with anger and difficult to please. They become obsessed with finding fault and creating rules and structure to enforce improvement.
In contrast, when Nines become stressed, they shut down and withdraw. When this happens Nines' productivity, effectiveness and communication abilities suffer, sometimes extensively, although they will likely put on a happy face for others and insist that nothing is wrong. Indeed, in the face of almost anything they find conflict-laden, Nines' response is to tune it out.
Ones will begin to feel Nines are incompetent and can't be trusted. It is difficult for Nines to take the level of responsibility Ones would like them to take. One's expectations can make Nines feel inferior, and as a result, they can develop a habit of trying to please their One counterparts by being ingratiating, overly accommodating, and capitulating.
Ones respond to this behavior by attacking with criticism in the hopes Nines will improve, but Nines are likely to retreat into passive-aggressive resistance, while further suppressing their rage.This is the negative spiral of this pairing, where Nines withdraw, tune out and resist and Ones judge, push, and examine every mistake under a microscope.
Nines can struggle to stand up to One's glare, while Ones can struggle to respect Nines’ competency and reliability. Ones become increasingly self-righteous while Nines become stubbornly unresponsive. This is a power struggle marked by internal seething with sharp bursts of anger.
What Each Type Needs To Be Aware Of
Ones need to be aware of their oft-obsessive focus on detail and quality, which can result in harshness, judgment, or rudeness. They can also attend to the fact that they can move to impatience, and this makes their feedback hard to hear. Their standards may be higher than is reasonable or necessary.
Nines need to be aware of how they distract themselves with comforts and how they can get lost in indecision. They would also do well to bear in mind that when they notice themselves moving to stubbornness, they could pivot and step up to resolve the conflict making them dig their heels in instead. It is also good to know that Nines, while agreeable on the surface, may harbor feelings of resentment.
They can often become out of touch with their priorities. There will be a mutual desire to rely on schedules and to avoid complex decision making. Accelerating timelines, dividing big decisions into smaller parts, and inviting outside participants to mediate will help with this issue.
Ones need to be careful not to treat Nines as commodities because they will feel unappreciated and may cheerfully agree to complete assignments that they have no intention of finishing anytime soon. Nines want to follow the path of least resistance.
How You Can Support One Another
Ones should do their best to develop flexibility, patience and deliver their feedback for Nines in an encouraging, non-critical manner. If Nines perceive a lack of appreciation, they may withdraw, slow down, or conveniently never get around to completing the task. When Nines are feeling overwhelmed, Ones can step in a pick up the slack, as long as the pair have healthy boundaries and clear communication.
Sometimes, Nines need a gentle but persistent push to voice their needs, desires, and points of view, especially if what they want or need goes against another person in their immediate proximity. They can easily feel disregarded but will suffer in silence. Also, they appreciate being given time to come to their opinions.
Both parties will have a natural desire to respond and be reactive rather than be proactive and dynamic. This means they both need to be careful that they aren’t waiting for the other to initiate and prioritize because they could be waiting for a long time. Scheduling regular meetings to discuss progress and prioritize tasks will help address this issue.
Additionally, when working with Ones, Nines need to make an effort to be very clear with directions, milestones, and deadlines, as Ones will work best when they know where they are going. Nines can practice picking up the pace of their work, taking more initiative, taking stronger stands for what they believe in and facing potential anger and conflict. Receiving positive reinforcement, both in a general personal sense and in a task-specific sense, is particularly crucial to Nines.
In A Romantic Context
Ones and Nines can be very similar on foundational levels, and so the attraction in this relationship is a sense of knowing the other from the inside out or feeling as if peering into a mirror. While not identical, these two can see many of their traits in the other. They are both driven to make the world a better place and have a firm understanding of what’s wrong with it, to begin with.
They are idealistic and want what’s best for the other. They are also both hard-working, and willing to sacrifice—themselves, their immediate gratification, their energy—in pursuit of the greater good.
Nines bring a gentle, compassionate acceptance and ease in social interactions that Ones find soothing. Ones bring a strong drive for self-improvement and a clear-mindedness that both inspires and teaches Nines. In short, Nines serve to soften and lighten Ones, while Ones can help as decisive, clear swords to cut through Nines’ fuzziness.
When in health, these two are a collaborative, altruistic team with a good balance of sharp and soft. If they find themselves in a less-than-healthy place, however, they will immediately be confronted with the drawbacks of being unable to express emotion, particularly anger. Ones often restrain themselves from openly displaying their feelings because of their sense of propriety, while Nines cannot discern their true feelings, most of the time.
In times of stress, Ones become prickly and full of blame, whereas Nines tend to shut down or retreat. Ones tend to focus on others’ problems, while Nines become sticks in the mud, so to speak, unable to take action or make corrections. As the tension increases, Nines become more and more ineffective and withdrawn, while Ones lay into them with criticism and judgment.
Nines want to tune problems out while Ones are actively looking to place blame. Ones read Nines’ withdrawal as intentional resistance or indifference, and thus their intolerance increases. Usually Nines unable to take the level of responsibility that Ones are asking them to make.
These two can spiral into a tense, uncomfortable, and passive-aggressive feedback loop, wherein Ones are throwing angry, pointed barbs at Nine, who has dug in their heels and is silently stewing in their very obvious anger. The two become frozen there, unable to find the words to correct or heal the situation.