Enneagram Type 9 - The Peaceful Mediator

Mediator, Peacekeeper, Diplomat, Pleasant Person, Modest Person, Humble Person, Pacifist


Worldview of the Type 9


Overview

You are an easy-going, kind, and accepting person who strives to be in harmony by accommodating and supporting what is essential to others. Your gift for seeing many sides of an issue enables you to mediate differences and bring peace to people around you.

On the other hand, your desire to remain comfortable and “ok” can cause complacency, inactivity, and difficulty making and voicing personal decisions. Your keys to growth include seeing that your opinions, needs and desires are just as valid as anyone else’s, and taking a stand for your own preferences in the present moment.


What You Are Great At

  • Coming forward to mediate when people are in conflict.

  • Being accepting, trusting, all-embracing, and receptive.

  • Being creative, fanciful, and entertaining.

  • Being optimistic, unflappable, adaptable and steady.

  • Good listener, making everyone feel honored.

  • Seeing and supporting others’ perspectives and points of view.

  • Bringing about harmony, wholeness, and connection.

  • Finding points of agreement and achieving unity with others.

  • Being supremely unselfish and working hard for a good cause and to keep peace.

  • Being good-natured, kind, friendly, sweet, innocent.

  • Bringing a healing and calming influence to others.

  • Being humble, unpretentious, genuine, trusting, simple, likable.


Core Wiring

Driven by core fears of loss and separation from others, you seek to achieve feelings of wholeness, union, inner stability, and peace of mind. You are highly motivated by what you don’t want-- which is conflict, tension, disharmony, disagreement, pressure, discomfort or complications with others. Striving to create a harmonious, stable, peaceful and comfortable environment, you minimize your own needs and try to create and maintain trouble-free relationships.


What Drives You

Your core fears are related to loss, separation, and being overlooked which can lead to a fear of being “loveless”- both because your feel others might ignore or neglect you, and because you might shut yourself off to such a degree that you can no longer feel love or let it in. You might start to feel unimportant, or less valuable relative to others-- especially if others around you are strong, dramatic, needy, or demanding.

This leads to your conflict avoidance. You also fear complication because when things are complicated, more things can go wrong which can cause discord and disharmony, which is uncomfortable.


Inner World of the Type 9


Core Fears

Your core fears are related to loss, separation and being overlooked which can lead to a fear of being “loveless”- both because your feel others might ignore or neglect you, and because you might shut yourself off to such a degree that you can no longer feel love or let it in. You might start to feel unimportant, or less valuable relative to others-- especially if others around you are strong, dramatic, needy, or demanding.

This leads to your conflict avoidance. You also fear complication because when things are complicated, more things can go wrong which can cause discord and disharmony, which is uncomfortable.


Core Desires

To be comfortable, harmonious, peaceful, whole, complete, and feeling at-ease with others.


Core Needs

You need simplicity, harmony, and the appreciation of others. Because you are highly empathetic, you need to know that the people around you are relaxed to relax, yourself. To truly be at-ease, you need your creature comforts and are likely unwilling go without them. Publicly, you may go along to get along, but when in private you make sure that you have what makes you feel happy and comfortable.


Core Beliefs

The world, people and situations can be demanding and divisive. In most situations, it is best to avoid conflict and look for middle ground rather than to take a solid stance: that might create problems and disrupt my peace. Everything will work out if I stay calm, amiable, and connected.


Likes

  • Agreement, peace and harmony.

  • Unity, merger, and togetherness.

  • Comfort and ease.

  • Being in intimate relationship.

  • Distractions (e.g., romance novels, college football, social media).

  • Connection.

  • Feeling included, loved and accepted as you are.

  • Familiar routines and activities with clear structure.

  • Holding many sides of an issue open.

  • Reflecting, musing, and considering things.

  • Having your position acknowledged.

  • Satisfaction in accomplishments and jobs well done.


Dislikes

  • Conflict, confrontation, and disagreement.

  • Anger and disturbance.

  • Change, making personal decisions, saying “no”.

  • Separation.

  • Independence.

  • Feeling discounted or overlooked.

  • Being forced to take sides on an issue.

  • Unknown, unfamiliar, or unpredictable situations.

  • Emotional intensity, controversy, drama, chaos.

  • Having your opinion or position opposed.

  • Loneliness, ending a relationship.

  • Discomfort, looming deadlines.


Outer World of the Type 9


Strategies

You seek to avoid conflict, asserting yourself, or taking a stand. You "go along to get along," sublimating your own needs and preferences to create a sense of peace and harmony.


Impact of Strategies

When there is no pressure, conflict or discomfort, you have neither deadlines nor demands. For you, it's just peace and harmony.


What's Great About You

You are warm, gentle, humble, agreeable, kind, pleasant and enduring. You are the calm in the storm.


Attention goes to...

Your attention goes to identifying with and merging with others. You look for what others want and need in an effort to keep the peace. Your soft, pillowy energy tends to spread outwards and become diffuse.

Because you sense and champion the needs and feelings of whatever group you are in, you are a natural group anchor. To avoid feeling tension and conflict, you may reach for substitutes for love by eating, focusing on the minutia or getting lost in unimportant tasks.


Operating System of the Type 9


At Your Best

You are a humble, patient, allowing and permissive diplomat who focuses on keeping the peace in any given situation. Because you strongly value connection, agreement, and unity with others, you like to keep things harmonious, stable and comfortable. When you are tuned in to what others want, you easily set aside your own needs to accommodate, appease or satisfy them.

You have a natural gift for patiently listening to all points of view and building consensus before making decisions. Most people feel heard, understood, accepted, included, nurtured, and valued in your presence.

You can be a wonderful mediator, naturally bringing people together by genuinely seeing, acknowledging, and honoring each person’s perspective. This makes you an asset to any team in the areas of listening, shared vision, consensus, healthy conflict, trust, appreciation, collaboration and support.


Under Stress

When your focus is so resolutely set on taking the path of least resistance, you may feel the need to avoid conflict, abandon yourself, devalue your position or compromise your true values to appease others. Even when you’re clear on your own position, you may not want to voice it, if doing so will cause difficulties or separation from others. You prefer to “not rock the boat” and have a tendency to “go along to get along”.